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[strobogo]

Similarly as creepy as a nursing home is the old person version of the ICU a lot of hospitals have.  They basically are warehouses.  All these people who look like they should have died 15 years ago on feeding tube, oxygen tanks, not being able to do much more than cough or drool.  The lights are almost always turned off or dark so you don't actually have to see these dying bodies room after room while on the way to get a $2.00 bottle of Pepsi.  It's really hard to look at that or nursing homes and not think assisted suicide should be an option for everyone.

[AxB]

My Grandma died on Tuesday. Last Grandparent I had. I was going to say it was nice that she got to meet my Son before she died, but he was really small at the time and they don't/ didn't remember one another. She was 89, would have been 90 in less than a month.

Going to the funeral on Thursday. Have to buy a new suit, my old one won't fit me anymore.

[bioniczero]

Nothing as sad as the above (condolences everyone), but fuck you self for getting involved with a girl you work with.  It went South and now you have to see your ex for 8 hours a day every day.  Stupid, stupid fucking move.

[Andrew POE!]

Fuck me for being 31 today. :(

Oh well, I still look like I'm in my early 20s but with a bit of pudge now.

[echris1015]

F you, genetics.

Trying to reverse the family belly curse, doing 50+ minutes of semi-intense cardio for two months straight, 5 or six days a week, plus a ton of crunches just for the heck of it., while cutting down on my food intake and swapping out most of the unhealthy stuff.  

Lost an amazing 2 lbs (sarcasm) and a whopping 1/4 inch off of my belly. Ehh. I feel much better but certainly don't look it.

I know its a minor thing to complain about, but it would certainly be nice to have a little more reward than that.

[Hoardak]

martysugar, on Feb 22 2012, 04:42 AM, said:

and passed up at least one potential promotion because "the team needed me,"

My father was the nicest, most decent human being I've ever known, type of guy who would give you the shirt off his back if he thought you needed it.  But when I got my Master's Degree, the advice he gave me was that I need to always look out for myself in the corporate world and don't be afraid to seize any oppurtunity I can get, even if it leaves others in the lurch.

Best advice he ever gave me.

[Johnny Sorrow]

Death From Above, on Apr 29 2012, 12:58 AM, said:

So, this is going to all be basically summed up with "fuck you, extreme old age", but I feel the need to type and why the hell not here.

My grandmother is 93 and up until a few weeks ago was still living on her own, but had a bad fall. Busted up her leg pretty bad, and is probably stuck in a wheelchair for what's left of her life. She's now been moved into an old folks home, which was probably the one thing above all others she never wanted. Who the hell does, I suppose, but her more than most. Myself and some other relatives finished cleaning out her old apartment today then after that my mom and I headed over to the care center to see her, which was my first time in such a place. I knew it wasn't going to be pretty but honestly it was probably both creepier and even more depressing than I'd even imagined based on all I'd heard.

So you walk in the door and literally the first thing you see is a row of 10 people in this lobby, all in wheelchairs or with walkers, whose combined age had a legitimate shot at being 900. And they're just all sitting there in a row, watching the door and staring out the two windows on either side, and that's what they do all day I guess. It goes without saying most of these people don't exactly look long for this world. A couple of them have clearly lost the plot in old age and visibly have obvious dementia issues (which might be real high on my list of personal fears of how I never ever want to end up) and none of them are in good health, which is part of the reason these homes scare people. It's not just "old people", it's "old people with either serious physical or mental health issues". To be honest after sitting with her for an hour, watching some of the residents sit there staring off in to the distance, or once in a while shuffle around, it really felt akin to having walked into the middle of a Romero zombie film. That was the exact kind of impression it made on me. I don't know if I've ever been in a creepier place in my life, and this is where she's probably spending the rest of her life. She has to split her room with another woman who is probably a breathing medical journal entry herself, though her husband seemed like a really nice guy when I met him briefly. My mom says he's in there pretty much every day for a few hours with his wife, bringing her extra things, just spending time with her. Hell I don't even want to think about that either because it's just as heartbreaking a story on it's own.

She's miserable in this place, as she has every right to be. And even though I saw her just a couple months ago she's visibly aged several years from all she's been through. I know that seems ridiculous to say about a 93 year old but you can just see a lot of whatever spark of life she had life just isn't there anymore. She also seems to be in early stage Alzheimer's which seems to be accelerating, between the memory problems and the onset of extreme paranoia, a lot of which is aimed at the staff who are out to get her in her own mind. That has increased a ton in the last few months but is really in full force now. Maybe it's just a phase where because she's in a depression she feels she has to fight against the staff but that's probably wishful thinking. The family is pretty aware it's part that but it's also her mind is slipping. She's been accusing nearly random people of having been "stealing" things out of her apartment for a while (or even better, one or two stories about people sneaking things *in* that she swears don't belong to her even though they do), which is a red flag.

A doctor also ignored (or was simply unaware due to not checking a chart) a do not resuscitate order while my grandmother was in hospital a couple weeks ago, and she's miserable about that too. She's 93, she's lost her independence, her mind is slipping, she's probably in a lot of pain, and she just wants off the ride.

I'm not going to lie, I don't think I've ever felt sorrier in my life for someone I know personally than I did during that hour with her in the home tonight before we had to take the long drive back here. She's outlived pretty much all her peers, the friends she's made in a lifetime that are her own age, and now all this. This is just no fucking way for anyone to have to go out. When I walked out of that place it felt like I'd walked out of prison. You can dress it up with flowers and an aquarium and soft music and a grandfather clock in the lobby, but that's still what it felt like. Prison for old people.

But what the hell else can we do?

The whole experience really shook me up, and I've dealt with death once or twice before. But not like this. So basically fuck extreme old age. I could probably rant more but that's probably more detail than I really meant to write when I started typing anyway. I don't know if this is even worth posting but what the hell, maybe it's something actually coherent and meaningful I've written on the internet after a dozen or more years.

Sorry about all that, man. But I need to just say that not all Nursing Homes are "prisons". In fact most of them aren't. I've been working in Nursing Homes as an Activities Professional for the last 22 years, since I was 19. And I can assure you that the vast majority of the fellow employees at all the ones I've worked at were and are caring, good, people who devote ourselves to caring for the elderly. Of course there are bad apples out there, and some shitty homes. But in the U.S. , we have very strict state and federal inspections on a regular basis to assure that we are meeting the standards that our seniors deserve. I know full well how strange and depressing a Nursing Home can seem to be to someone not there every day, but I can assure all y'all that people like me and my peers do all we can to make those final years, months, or weeks full of care and love for our patients. My "specialty" is working with people with Alzheimer's and related dementia. It's a challenge, and it's tough to know that every day you may come to work and find that someone you just worked with/ hugged goodbye the day before has died. But, it's part of the job. So, keeping with the thread title...here's a big fuck you to Alzheimer's disease, the most awful and for lack of a better word, diabolical ailment there is.


ps:  If anyone has a relative in a Nursing Home and you feel that the care is poor, call your local ombudsman.

pps: Oh, and visit your relatives, people.

[strobogo]

Very minor fu, but fuck defective shit game stores sell.  I bought a PS3 controller use on my transformer.  Synched right up, but none of the buttons work.  So iI tried everything I could find to get it to work.  Eventually I tested it on an actual PS3 and the same issue.  This store didn't even test to see if it worked.  More of an annoyance than anything.

[Hoardak]

Fuck you to the asshole who shoved his way through the line at Sea World's Wild Arctic yesterday, waving his military ID in the air and shouting "Gang way, Iraqi war veteran coming through.  Gang way, Iraqi war veteran coming through."

He ended up getting tossed by security after throwing a fit and threatening the park staffer who informed him that being military did NOT entitle him to cut through lines like a dipshit.

[Hollywood Cibernetico]

Fuck you friend who is pretending NOT to have a large porn magazine colletion while HAVING a large porn magazine collection. I am tired of people pretending/acting brand new when their porn stash is discovered. Telling me that it belonged to others and you confiscated it. If the porn disgusted you so much that you had it confiscated, why not — and this is totally crazy and off the wall — throw it out? Why were these supposed 'guests' bringing porn into your home to begin with? Not just one or two recent issues, but issues dating all the way back to 1991? They couldn’t bear to part with certain copies and brought them along, with 74 other back issues? That’s some kind of homesickness.

[Joe Lucia]

Hollywood Cibernetico, on May 13 2012, 05:53 PM, said:

Fuck you friend who is pretending NOT to have a large porn magazine colletion while HAVING a large porn magazine collection. I am tired of people pretending acting brand new when their porn stash is discovered. Telling me that it belonged to others and you confiscated it. If the porn disgusted you so much that you had it confiscated, why not — and this is totally crazy and off the wall — throw it out? Why were these supposed 'guests' bringing porn into your home to begin with? Not just one or two recent issues, but issues dating all the way back to 1991? They couldn’t bear to part with certain copies and brought them along, with 74 other back issues? That’s some kind of homesickness.

oh my god this is fantastic

[Fat Spanish Waiter]

Hollywood Cibernetico, on May 13 2012, 03:53 PM, said:

Fuck you friend who is pretending NOT to have a large porn magazine colletion while HAVING a large porn magazine collection. I am tired of people pretending acting brand new when their porn stash is discovered. Telling me that it belonged to others and you confiscated it. If the porn disgusted you so much that you had it confiscated, why not — and this is totally crazy and off the wall — throw it out? Why were these supposed 'guests' bringing porn into your home to begin with? Not just one or two recent issues, but issues dating all the way back to 1991? They couldn’t bear to part with certain copies and brought them along, with 74 other back issues? That’s some kind of homesickness.

[Broken Lamp '88]

Man, I was coming in here to be all "finals, mehhh," but that's some grade A stuff right there.

[SoopArr AE]

FUCK YOU SoopArr AE for not doing the smart thing and dropping out of school after pre-med fizzled out, and ending up going over $50k in debt for an education you could have gotten for free at the library.  As much as you made fun of psychology majors for not being real students, how many of them are doing better than you now?  Now you're in debt, with a job that literally makes you want to kill yourself, and most of the money from that just pays for your daughter's daycare.  You deserve all the misery you're getting now.

[J.T.]

Hollywood Cibernetico, on May 13 2012, 05:53 PM, said:

I am tired of people pretending acting brand new when their porn stash is discovered.

No one discovers a porn stash by accident. That shit takes some effort.

If I caught you sifting through my personal belongings when you said you were going to use the bathroom, it would be boots to asses for you.

[The Magnificent 7]

Fuck you, Fishing Spider.  You were hands down the biggest, ugliest fucking spider I've ever seen not in a zoo or an aquarium.  You got the jump on me (scared the fuck out of me), catching me by surprise on the basement couch headrest as I was reading.  I tried to capture you, but you were as big as the circumference as the jar and faster than hell dodging 3 attempts at capture.  Then when I tried to kill you, the birthday wrapping paper cardboard roll didn't even stun you.  I flipped over the couch 'cause you ran under it, and a second whack didn't even phase you either.  So then you ran up inside the couch, and now I won't be able to rest in the basement knowing you're roaming about somewhere inside the couch.  I'm normally friendly to most spiders, even let large wolf spiders go about their business, but it's either you or me and I'm not conceding the basement to you.  Fuck my couch?  Nah, son.  Fuck yo couch.  If that's how you're gonna roll, it's war.  

Know this, spider-cheetah...I've ID'd you, and now I know all about you.  Your walking on water tricks don't impress me because there's not a pond in my basement.  I've got a spare size 13 shoe ready to go in the basement.  Round 2 will be very different.

Pics I managed to snap as one of the kids ran to get me a jar, should have went with my first instinct and told them to grab a shoe...





http://ento.psu.edu/.../fishing-spider

[Brian Fowler]

I'd move.

[madcap]

Yeah, there's no other reason to live there now.

[Don]

Watch out for the large pulsating sac the size of a softball.

[Johnny Sorrow]

J.T., on May 15 2012, 02:19 PM, said:

Hollywood Cibernetico, on May 13 2012, 05:53 PM, said:

I am tired of people pretending acting brand new when their porn stash is discovered.

No one discovers a porn stash by accident. That shit takes some effort.

If I caught you sifting through my personal belongings when you said you were going to use the bathroom, it would be boots to asses for you.

We just moved and during said move, I found two boxes with my roommate's Playboys from the late 90's/ early 2000's and some old porn VHS tapes. I goofed on him, as I had no idea the stash had made it to that house during our first move 4 years ago, and the shit was in the back of a crawl space. He hadn't even opened the boxes in years, but kept them. So this time I figured they'd end up in the "go to the dump" pile and he said as much. Well, while unloading the truck during the move to our new place, said porn boxes were among everything. I REALLY started goofing on him then. His wife said that she thought it was "cute".